Anilingus

Anilingus is exactly what it sounds like.  Colloquially termed “rimming,” (and also spelled “analingus”) it’s oral sex play involving the anus.  While anilingus is a major turn-on to many people, it’s something of a taboo for others.  There are a number of reasons why anilingus may cause aversion to some people—but this is usually due to a lack of cognizance on the subject.  Understanding how to engage in anilingus safely and how to talk about anilingus with your partner may open some erotic doors which were closed before.

anilingus

Talking to Your Partner

Some people want no part in anilingus.  Everyone has their boundaries; if your partner is absolutely closed to the idea, pressuring him or her won’t change your partner’s mind.  You may want to explain why anilingus appeals to you and also share this article with your partner to alleviate any concerns he or she may have.  If that isn’t enough, pressing the point probably isn’t going to result in any changes.  But it may be helpful for you to understand why some people (men and women alike) are deterred by the idea.

Some heterosexual people associate anything involving anal play with homosexuality, and due to personal insecurities, want to steer clear.  Anilingus is an activity which is enjoyed by many heterosexual couples as well as homosexual couples, however, and there’s nothing unusual about any person of any sexual orientation being interested in trying it.  Another reason that some partners are ambivalent or uncomfortable with the idea is that they’ve been taught to have some kind of shame involving that part of their body.  This is a hard line for some, while crossing it may be a liberating experience for others.  Some partners also are anxious about anal play because they’ve had negative sexual experiences in the past which concerned that part of the body.  There are a lot of nerves in the anus which can generate pleasurable sensations, but also pain if handled roughly.  Taking things slow and easy is always important when your partner is new to anal play (or when you are).

99.9% of men don't know how to give women an orgasm this strong… Find out how...

Finally, other concerns surrounding anilingus come down to health issues, and these are totally reasonable.  It’s important to observe all the relevant safety precautions when performing anilingus, since without proper cleaning, serious infections are possible.  We’ll discuss hygiene later in this article.

Along with addressing concerns with your partner, you should also explain why anilingus is something you want to do.  It’s not enough in situations like this to simply say, “Because it’d feel good.”  While that’s a completely valid answer, it doesn’t do anything to speak to your partner’s insecurities, shame, or confusion.  Why is anilingus appealing from a psychological standpoint?  Perhaps because of that very shame and insecurity which so many people attach to that part of the body.

We dispose of waste through our anuses, and to many human beings, defecating is seen as something which is dirty and shameful.  Considering it’s an essential life function and part of a healthy human being’s daily life, however, this attitude is rather backward and negative.  Performing anilingus on your partner may be your way of saying that you respect and love every part of your partner’s body, and that you accept all of your partner, as a living, breathing human being who eats, shits, and all.  Allowing your partner to perform anilingus on you is your way of showing trust in your partner and saying that no part of your body or being is off limits.  Since much of the eroticism and value of sex stems from intimate sharing and acceptance, this may help you to explain your desires to your partner.  Also consider that oral sex was considered dirty and shameful by many people in the past, and still is by some people in the present.

What to Do While Rimming

Discover the secrets to lasting longer in bed by a male pornstar… Find out more…

What should you do while rimming your partner?  Rimming is a lot like oral sex in that there are a lot of different things you can do, and finding the best techniques is usually a matter of experimentation and listening to your partner’s cues (verbal and otherwise).  Anilingus can be combined with fellatio or cunnilingus if you’d like; this is a good way to transition into it if you’re a beginner especially.  The anal rim is a sensitive area with a lot of nerves; you can run your tongue around it or even penetrate the anus with your tongue (if this concerns you for cleanliness reasons, check the next section).

You can also stimulate your partner’s inner thighs and buttocks.  Use your hands while you’re rimming your partner to produce more sensation, exploring your partner’s body, or you can also penetrate the anus with your fingers.  Use care when you penetrate the anus since if you aren’t careful you can hurt your partner.  This is more of a risk when using your fingers than your tongue since the tongue is softer.  Ask your partner for feedback while you’re rimming so that you can improve your performance, and if your partner is rimming you, communicate clearly so that he or she knows what you enjoy.

Notes on Cleanliness and Safety

Anytime you’re going to engage in rimming, the partner who is on the receiving end should thoroughly wash the area (this is one reason the shower is a great place for anal play).  If there’s going to be any penetration, an enema can be used to clean out the interior.  It’s not a good idea to do rimming with a partner who you know to have an active infection of any sort, and if you’re engaging in casual sex, you may want to forego anilingus since there is a risk of catching an STD or a bacteria or parasite from the digestive tract, either of which can lead to serious disease.  Between partners who practice fidelity and who have no active infections and carry no STDs, the odds of any sort of infection transferred through rimming are quite low, as long as all the safety and cleanliness measures are observed.  When the anus is clean, licking the anus isn’t any different from licking any other body part.

If you're serious about being able to give your girl the type of FULL-BODY, screaming-at-the-top-of-her-lungs orgasm that no guy has EVER given her before... whether it's your first night together or you've been dating for years... You should check out Squirting Orgasm Mastery. The guy behind it made over 300 women squirt so obviously can share his tricks :). Read Randy's review of Squirting Orgasm Master here.

No comments yet.

Leave a Reply